The Art Of Consistency: How To Enjoy Transformation When It Gets Uncomfortable
I’m back home in Switzerland and I know I need to get back into the habit of writing consistently.
I am hesitating; even though I know it is the best thing that I can do in the morning.
Writing leaves me with a sense of accomplishment. I love the feeling when I go to bed at night, and I’ve poured out my heart and soul in my writing. But the last two weeks I’ve felt so tired. I couldn’t get up in the morning, and if I did – the next position I found myself in was horizontal again – on the couch.
I didn’t want to do anything significant or purposeful.
I just wanted to lie around, eat crappy stuff and watch Netflix.
And I have, for more or less two weeks now.
But I am feeling that my energy is coming back, even though I hesitate to use it.
It’s like I broke the good habit of daily writing and now I have to get back into it.
But I think the last two weeks were so necessary for me to reset my system.
I think there was a lot that needed to be rearranged and settled in.
I am doing lots and lots of personal work, energy clearings, journaling, sleep hypnosis every night, tapping; I am reprogramming myself and my life from square one.
All this energy work needed a space to integrate and to settle in. I am releasing tons of old shit – thoughts, beliefs, judgments – all stuff that doesn’t serve me anymore.
I am releasing all of this.
I’ve met many people recently and talked with them about my business and being a coach.
Many asked me about what it is that I am doing. I told them that I help women to heal their past, let go of everything they don’t need in order to create a life that fulfills them and feels like a big “YES,” a relief. I get them to the point of, “finally I am living MY life and am doing what I came here to do.”
Well, that is how I describe it in short form.
And these people tell me that, they see me on social media and think something like: “Man, she is always so happy. She is always in such a good mood, and she seems like she has everything figured out.”
And that’s true; I don’t fake anything on social media but what’s even truer is, that I am a human and I have my ups and downs.
I don’t show myself that much on social media when I don’t feel well. It is just my nature that I prefer to deal with myself in times like that.
I get really close to myself and let everything bubble up that needs to be seen and transformed. I want to be the best version of myself and that includes that I give myself space the feel shitty for a while.
I think it’s crucial that we embrace the good and the bad times.
I think the bad times are actually where life is forging us, where we gain our strength, where we purge out everything we don’t need, where the transformation takes place. It’s like a birth.
Giving birth to a baby is a huge transformation for everyone involved – especially the mom and the baby – but is everything nice and neat and clean? Certainly not. Giving birth is frightening, painful and dirty but as soon as mom and baby went through it, it leaves everybody amazed, transformed and in deep gratitude.
I see times where nothing is right when I am sick, things are out of order, like I broke my laptop or I can’t get my ass out of bed to do my morning routine like a birth process.
A transformation process. It’s just important not to get stuck in the process, but not to force anything either. That’s an art if you ask me. But eventually, all you really need is faith because you are made to go through these transformations. You have everything you need to go safely through it.
But you have to get soft. Give in. Stop holding on to the shore and just let the river of life carry you through.
If you resist the process, the pain gets bigger. The more tension you build up, the more you hold onto your past, the harder it gets to let go of it, peel off the old skin that doesn’t fit anymore to become the new, the better version of yourself.
Because no matter what you want in your life; if you long for a healthy and nourishing relationship, a fulfilling and thriving business or more happiness and confidence – it’s not about you getting these things, it’s about who you have to become to create these things in your life.
It’s always just about who you have to become.
For example: If you long for a nourishing, loving, intimate relationship, you probably won’t just get one, if you are not able to open your heart and love someone else freely. If you still hold on past wounds and believe that guys only cheat on you sooner or later – you won’t be able to have a thriving relationship. You have to become that person, that loving partner first to create what you desire.
And that’s actually good news! Because you don’t need anything to become that person. You have everything inside of you. You just need to transform yourself, to do the inner work, to shed away the layers of doubt and disbelief to become more and more what you were always meant to be – a loving and kind partner, a successful business owner, a confident and happy human.
Being the person you desire to be is your true nature, it’s our all true nature. It’s just buried under thick layers of disbelief, doubt, fear, social conditioning and so on.
It’s not always easy to walk the path of transformation, but it is always simple.
It is simple because it is our nature. But if it were easy, everybody would do it.
That would be amazing, but it’s far away from the truth.
If only these humans knew how beautiful it is to be able to let go of all these uncomfortable behaviors and feelings – how good it is when your relationships transform into love. When you can detach from your thoughts and ego – more and more and drama dissolves magically out of your life. It’s beautiful, and I wouldn’t want to miss it.
You are the wind – not the leaf anymore. You recognize how powerful you are.
You know that you can’t always influence your life’s events or what other people do to you, but you know it’s ALWAYS YOUR CHOICE HOW YOU RESPOND.
And that my dear, makes THE difference.
It makes a difference if I take it personally when my boss or partner has a bad day.
It makes a difference if I take it personally when people don’t like me.
It makes a difference if I cultivate compassion for myself and others or if I am stuck in the game of offender and victim.
It makes a difference for yourself and everyone around you.
Let me know if you want to learn more on how to become the person you always wanted to be.
I’d love to help you get there!